It's a shame...

Blogspot family how are we this Sunday afternoon? Let's get to the point. So I took the new guy out with me last night [my friends had a cook-out/pool party]. That party in itself was a story, but I digress. So I took him out into my habitat, now my friends can get wild too he probably seen some shit he ain't never seen before also but still.

Ok the issue of the day was to see if he can have one night, JUST ONE NIGHT, of being errrrrr different. Did it happen? EPIC FAIL.

Mind you every time I do hang out with the boy, which I can count on one hand, he is intoxicated. Now I don't know how other people do it, but if you're trying to pursue a person your best bet is to do it in a sober state. This boy does not comprehend that, which makes me think can he even comprehend the responisbilities of life PERIOD! [Doubt it].

So we're at this party people are drinking, some smoking, I kept it real light weight [No beer, one long island, and a few cups of Hunch Punch diluted with sprite] cause I'm thinking #1. I'm driving #2. He has to be entertained. Cool we eating, having fun, talking, and he's having drinks ok cool that's why I brought him so he can drink.

Then the night has an turning point. He has had 5 Hunch Punches, and countless amounts of beer, and THEN smokes. I mean do we not have limits? you're not in your own home. Matter of fact you're not even around people you know...

So I began to let him do him and he gets offened cause I remove myself from the situation after telling him numerous of times he is getting loud and obnixous. I'm in the house with my best friend at this point, the weed smoke was becoming annoying, then her drunk boyfriend and my drunk date come up stairs within a timely time frame. He is STILL drinking!!!

Ok it's time to go I have other things to do and I shall do them. We are in the car and when I tell you I don't say a word, I DON'T SAY A WORD. He asks why am I ignoring him and I say politely "I don't not converse well with intoxicated people for we have nothing to talk about". Of course, he says he's not drunk, but he's slurring and making no sense. And tells me I can't say he is ALWAYS drunk cause I only hung with him a few times. Well Sherlock if everytime I see you, and you're drunk guess what that's all I know you as.

Well the moral of the story is. He just runined any incline of good hopes I had in him. And I hope he wakes up in the morning and remembers that he offically has NO chance in hell to even be my friend.

It's a sad shame how some black men fall right into that hole that society has created for them called "Sterotype". Makes you start to wonder if there is even slight chance of hope for our black men at all.

Mission Two STALLED...

OK So We have established and succeeded in Mission 1.

He is reeled in and out for the bait.

But there is a SLIGHT snag in the preplanned stages before we can start Mission 2.

HE HAS LIFE ISSUES!

Not to put the boys business out in the street, so I digress, but lets just say we are MOST DEF not on the same page. I mean in life decisions I'm way ahead of him. Now how do you work with that? I asked this to several people and got the same answer.

Take it one day at a time.

So I'm gonna slow down on running into Mission 2 and iron out the works before I get my hands REALLY dirty. Cause we got A LOT of dirt and grime to scrub off.

Love.Live.Life.Proceed.Progress.

Ok so as I was talking to my friend COYE. We came to this conclusion he calls: BUILD-A-BEAR!

But in honesty I'm gonna do what you men do everyday and that's take a man [in my case] and "train" him into the man I'm looking for.

BACKGROUND:

So I met this guy and he is a REAL cutie, looks a lot like my current celeb crush Wiz Khalifa [See Above Picture], and I mean he's the right height and all. So he phoned me up tonight and we talked about basic things and likes. And the convo was nice a cool and full of laughter until.....

He told me he doesn't know who Wiz Khalifa is...WHUTTTTTT?!?!?

I was crushed. But okay not a deal breaker. He said "Well baby girl you gonna have to just school me on it." As the convo continues he states to me that He's not really that book smart and he likes to involve himself with smart women based on that. And I'm thinking it couldn't be that bad...And then I ask him about his siblings [He doesn't know what it means!!!]. I'm thinking MAN I'M FUCKED! but he's so damn cute!

So I tell COYE and he says "Well Train him" DING! DING! DING! So this is my blog on progression. I am gonna take this man and mold him into something more suitable to my current needs. I guess Dress him and teach how to talk too huh? AT COYE. So here we go y'all join me on my "shallow girl" journey.

MISSION ONE: BUILD-A-MAN, FOUNDATION HIS CUTE FACE

Absolutely- Sometimes!

Okay the subject at hand today is can you be on the 3rd floor of the Life's House and still be in a relationship with a basement dweller or a first floor live in. The answer? Absolutely- Sometimes!

The key in order to live sanely in what would seem insane to others is to remain CENTERED. You may ask how can I stay on my correct path and not get caught up in my partners drama? If love is truly present, it will create a common ground for the two of you on which you both can stand on. The hard part will be for you not to try and convince the other person that they must do what you are doing. and The tricky part for them is to not feel threatened by what you are doing. Love will help you bring the situation into balance. The resistance will help you build your spiritual muscles. However, you must not let difference descend into conflict.

Transition and Rebuild

We come to a point of our lives where what we been doing for years and years no longer works. It's like we wake up and want a whole new meaning, listen to this voice! Sometimes becoming in tuned with your spirit can help put things in you life into alignment. Let's apply this to relationships (of any kind) and your love life. If you are dating a person and after whatever period of time elapse you start to feel you like this person. What is the common thing people do? Become intimate, whether it's just a kiss or sexual, but it is INTIMATE. What if we take a few steps back and reevaluate the situation and listen to the inner voice of reason. If you had listened all along you would notice that it would have saved you a lot of trouble. Hypothecially:

Sarah meets a guy named James and from skin surface he is all her type. Naturally Sarah would have listened to the bells ringing that he is the one believing it was her brain, which always turned out to be her Vagina! But this time was different Sarah was on a self quest, she was on her way to self-love. So Sarah sat James down and explained to him "I have these bells ringing in my head that have nothing to do with you. I have to move slowly for myself. I have to honor what I am feeling in order to be sure I'm doing what is right for me." Make your agenda clear, and accept responsibility for yourself. If the person is not truly a loving teacher who has come to help you heal telling them the truth will make them disappear. Sarah told James and he laughed. This was not disappearing, but some tests can be confusing. Sarah continued the situation slowly. One day James kissed her, 5 months later without ANY intimate notation, he kissed her. 40 months of not being kissed she panicked, but she listened to that voice and it yelled "Danger!" and he laughed. After that night he turned into the ugliest person a human being could manifest. The relationship lasted 3 more weeks. And she was relieved when it died down. When it was said and done Sarah had broken another pattern.

This is an example that if you sit back and listen to that voice things work in your light.

The Four P's

Product.Price.Packaging.Promotion.

This phrase "the four P's" usually pertains to the marketing field, giving the fact I am a Marketing major. This can also apply to yourself in the growth field.

Product. Say you are the product and you are in the need of development. You have to be clear about who you really are and what you want. If you want your product to be received in the market, you must be able to describe it, define it, and articulate to others, those who will buy it, exactly what it is and what it can do.

Price. Once you know what or whom your product is, you must decide on the pricing. In self-development this is defined as self worth. It is understanding you don't have to settle for just anything that comes your way, no matter how rushed you feel.

Packaging. When you are in a loving, nurturing, and peaceful place within yourself; people and things alike follow suit. This is your personal packaging.

Promotion. Is knowing how you are going to reach those you want to attract. It's not so much of your result, but the response to who you are, how you feel, and what you are thinking.

The Four P's is a great way to elevate yourself in self development.

Father's Day

I just wanted to say HAPPY DADDY DAY to my father.

He may not be the best, but he is the coolest.

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